She said she only got the degree to make her parents happy and now it was time to do what she really wanted to do. She believes the degree was for her parents so not excelling in college is no big deal. What she does not realize yet is that everything we do has a future benefit or loss.
Everything we do benefits or affects us now or later.
This reminds of me of employees who think they are working for the company or for the boss. After two weeks of working at a new establishment, the other staff asked a friend of mine,”why are you taking this so seriously? Is the business for your father?” This apathy starts from childhood. People who grow up not knowing why they are in school usually end up achieving magnitudes more in their lives than those who think school is a duty. Even teachers get this wrong sometimes. They say “don’t think about what the school can do for you. Think about what you can do for the school. Don’t just go through the school. Let the school go through you. “What does that even mean? No wonder there are so many people working in jobs who do not know why they are working there. They do not know why they are there so unless the Lord intervenes, they will die unfulfilled.
Let me share a formula for being benefit-minded.
When faced with a difficult task, think of what the future rewards or benefits will be. Our minds find it very easy to understand things that work for our good. Think about what the effects of today’s decisions will be. The rewards will motivate you. Remember King David. When he got to the battlefront, he wanted to know what the reward would be for killing Goliath. After they told him the payoff, he could visualize himself living tax-free, rich and married to the king’s daughter.
Practice overcoming emotional pain and discomfort.
Many do not set big enough goals because they do not like emotional pain or discomfort. I know of more than one person who does not have a Masters degree or settled for a less rigorous program or job because he or she could not develop the emotional capacity to take an aptitude test or a series of interviews. If you think it is impossible, you will make excuses and find examples of people who failed to justify your lack of action. So what if you are rejected five times? Who cares if the other person is rude? Look at the end result. The pot of gold at the end should be your motivation. When I really want to work with you, I will call and visit your office at least 12 times until I wear you down. Very few people can withstand 12 visits to their office. This is not extreme at all. A pastor in my Church says he once showed up at an establishment for 30 days until they gave him the job. Please remember not to run away from pain and difficult emotions but rather expand your capacity to endure and tolerate difficult imaginations.
By the time your goals are achieved, it will be more than worth it and it will make you stronger.
Remember to also do this when hiring people or speaking to suppliers or buying from vendors. Remember to tell them what is in it for them. Don’t assume that they know. Tell them “For every 400 units sold to us at this price, you will be making 17% more revenue in the next 8 months than you did last year.” If they do not agree the first time, at least you have 11 more times to get your benefits. This also works in relationships. You may not want to do what the other person wants but remember to look for some kind of benefit. Every action is a seed. What you do for others will let good things happen to you. However I would like to add that we do not do good things just for the sake of personal benefit. That is selfishness. The end result is the motivation.
Do you have any tips on how you overcome difficult tasks?
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